Making Friends is hard

Friendships can be hard. Especially when you are a mom. Opinions fly around. Judging each other is almost automatic. But it shouldn't be.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. By Him. We are each different. Each child is different. We are quick to forget that we each struggle in the same situations. We each struggle in how to discipline, what to feed our kids, and so much more.

Mommy Wars seem to catch our attention on tabloids but we shouldn't be having them in real life.

I have a few tips here on how to:

Make Friends 

Schedule Time Together- Playdates are great. Sometimes though you need those conversations that don't involve what you ate for breakfast and what your child did last night. Schedule a girl's night with her! You need to get to know her outside the home life. Make an effort. 

It won't last forever- This time with children that are young? It will not be here forever. They will not always be 2 years old. Remember that. Remember your friends who don't have children yet, they know you. It might be harder to get together but try and don't forget- it won't last FOREVER.

Open Up- Share your heart. Be honest. Let go of the fear you have and share with her.

Stop Judging- A quick slip of the tongue can damage a relationship. Damage the trust. Let's remember that we need relationships, we as women crave that intimacy. 

I am still learning in friendships. I am still growing. How about you?

What have you learned in friendships? 

Who I am

Joining with Becky in a weekly link up of blogging with a purpose.  This week is:

Who I am

  Writing about myself doesn't come easy. I am branching out more and more. Wanting to be real. Authentic. Honest. So I am joining this link up (hopefully each Monday!) to have a purpose in my blogging. To build a community. 

I am: 
A wife- I am married to a man who leads our family. A man who is always looking to provide, care and love us. I am his best friend. I am his helpmeet. Just today while on the phone he said "Hey I have an idea.. want to hear?" Before he could tell me I told him what I thought he was going to tell me. I know him. I love him. We connect on so many levels and some people don't understand that but we do. A mom- I am a boy mom. Raising two boys. Two boys that I hope turn out to be unique and different from each other and those around them. Two boys I am teaching, loving, disciplining. I stay at home with them. I am enjoying every moment.  Traveler of books- I love to read. Just about anything. I love traveling through my books and being there. I have a vivid imagination and love it. Strong yet sensitive- Oxymoron? Yes, I am strong because I have been through many trials and yet I am only 24. I have changed in the 5 years since I have been married to a stronger, more driven, more talkative person. If you met me 5 years ago you would be surprised. I am sensitive and attentive to people and my surroundings. A Sister- I have three brothers. No sisters. I am definitely surrounded by boys. My oldest brother is in the Army and currently deployed. We talk EVERY DAY. No joke, we are that close. I have two younger brothers. I didn't grow up with one of them (long story for another post) so I named my first son after him. My youngest brother and I are really close also, he is my little brother I always want to protect and yet sometimes can't. He is truly my look-a-like brother who loves a good laugh and watching movies together. Day-dreamer-   My husband always calls me a butterfly. I am sometimes up in the clouds daydreaming.  Who are you?  Share in the comments, would love to get to know YOU!